Getting missing things

I am actually forced to write this blog as I have encountered with two pleasant scenario happened with my close ones during my presence itself. In both the scenario, people with me left their purse in the way but surprisingly got it back due to getting by responsible persons.

In first incident, I was roaming with my friends in night around Connaught Place In New Delhi. On returning back home, in way of Panchkuian Road, My friend's purse dropped from his pocket due to sheer negligence and no one from us could note it. We realize this when we reached home at Rajender Nagar. Cash in the purse was not a problem we there were not much cash in that but Debit and Credit Cards & ID Card were the part of concern most. We were thinking about going back to all the way and try to look for it in the hope that it is night and no one could get chance to look it (Just keeping false hope though :)).

So As soon as we started to going back to same place, my other friend receive call on his mobile, some one from the other side asked about the friend whose purse was get lost. After enquiring by caller, we came to know that caller has got the purse and informed us to take it back. It was mid night 12:00. We were really not able to realize that this can also be possible. We were so happy and started to going back for the same place. On reaching there we found that there was not one person who found the purse but was with his family (wife and children). Most probably they were just doing the night walk as day after that was holiday.

We said many thanks to them for calling us and giving information about lost purse, as we were not expecting that we really can get the purse back now. So we have collected the purse and came back happily.

Above incident happened in year of 2004 beginning I guess. Now next incident happened last week when me & my wife were going to Vasant Kunj for attending office sponsored party. In the way we stopped to ask the direction. In that place, my wife came out of car to understand the way, In that process neither she nor I realized that her purse has been dropped when she came out of car. After collecting direction information we moved forward to the party place.

Now upon reaching to the party place, My wife realized that her purse is not with her now. She told me that perhaps we missed it in the way. Here also the situation was similar, In the purse, she had kept the Debit Card. So for that we returned back immediately to the same place where we stopped for asking direction. But this time, luck was little hard, we got all the people sitting at the shop but no one of them, could answer about the purse. So we thought that we have lost it. Anyway, we came back to the party and decided that we should block the Debit card by next day morning.

So my wife made call to bank and asked them to block the card. We were not relaxed that only few bugs has been lost and we saved all the money in the bank. But after two days, my wife received a call from unknown Guy asking about if she had lost her purse on the way of Vasant Kunj. One man also came to our house for asking the same and told my wife that he is the caller friend. He told my wife that his friend receive this purse in the way and asked her if she can collect it from there. As I live in Ghaziabad, and due to very long distance my wife explained the difficulty to collect it. On this Guy told that he would get it back and give it to her in next couple of days as he goes to that way and also live near to our place.

My wife explained complete story to me, and I just remembered the above incident happened with us few years back. I was pretty happy on hearing this and felt gratitude to those people who are feeling such responsibility.

WOW!! WHAT A WONDER HAPPENED TODAY

Today when i was coming to office due to training purpose. I was following the usual way from which i normally come to office. At one red light before Noida Sector 58, I saw all the vehicle was stopped and patiently waiting for the red light. I also stopped at that red light and wait it for to get green.

Few pedestrian was passing by then through zebra crossing. One of them made a comment on us by saying "WOW!! WHAT A WONDER HAPPENED TODAY". I could not resist on my smile. As i know whom he was pointing the comment.

Usually none of vehicle stops at that red light but to surprise, today everyone was patiently waiting at that point. Hence he made comment. Also compel to think all of vehicle owners what other people (who don;t travel through personal vehicle) think about them.

Is Showing Patience makes other impatient and frustrated?

Since last 6 months, I am observing change of reaction towards myself by few near and dear ones. What i really observe is quite strange to me and it made me think again about my attitude towards others.

There were series of things i observed in form of reaction, weather it is a normal discussion about some materialistic things or someone else behaviour. Since last few six months i myself has gone through various phases of changes (but emerged successfully) hence got chance to observe other people reaction towards me. The strange thing was, whenever i am trying to keep my cool, that boils somebody else not on me but on the situation on which i am keeping patience.

For example, We (Me and my few friends) were going to attend one friend's marriage in Bijnor by my car. In between reaching to Merut, we stopped for a while for tea-break. What really has happened was, i forgot to take the keys out from the Car and locked it (with all the mirrors closed tightly). Just after locking the car, i realize my mistake, but i can't do anything. I told my friends, initially everyone reaction was OK, but soon when we tried to find the solution but could not get it due to being charged heavily by one mechanic available nearby. Everybody else was loosing his patience. I was also nervous but not trying to show others, I think that made everybody else furious. They are not furious on me, but on situation we get caught. Anyway after few more minute, we were out of that situation and reach to friend's place on time.::)

That was just a single example, but there are more from which i found that not showing nervousness by myself makes other furious.

I don;t know weather i am at right side or they are on right side, but i think i also need to learn few fake reaction i should show depends upon need.

Net Sickness

How can one define the Internet sickness? Spending lot of time on surfing, reading article & writing responses to them? Or not feeling good if could not able to do such things on the Internet.

But i am pretty much sure about the second part. As sometimes i feel that i should write few good article on the net but due to lack of peace full time, i am not able to do so since long time back. Sometime i feel frustrated due to this. As i realise this change of behaviour in myself since last few months, also i found that if i am able to do write even very simple thing for example on my Blogger even i felt a lot happier from inside. Feel of doing creativity, feel of doing something new gives me thrill after i wrote something.

I think time has been arrived for thinking something very seriously about this sickness.

is there really difference in working behavior of people based on different regions of India?

I always thought that every people reaction would be similar if he would face similar kind of problem in similar environment. But after few years of working in the industry my perception has been changed about my thought itself. I actually found that people do behave differently on similar problem they have to tackle.

But after working for more than five years in the industry, what i really learned is quite interesting as well as shocking. That interesting thing i found that, Based on the region of the person, working behavior differs very much towards their assigned responsibility and job. for example, two people who are from two different regions are working for similar kind of job in an organization, let's say in finance dept. Their way of handling the people and their job will be totally different. And i noticed this a lot if two persons are from North & South respectively.

I am not sure about others but i feel, people from north are more egoistic and hence they either try to accomplish their job in perfect manner or don;t do that at all. But this is not true in case of people from south. All in all, due to that reason i prefer north based people rather than south based.

Why large company buys a small company?

Vinny Carpenter’s blog: "Every time a large company buys a small company, I almost always flashback to a meeting I had in July 2000 with Paul Butterworth, who was then the CTO of Sun’s tools division. Paul had joined Sun as part of Sun’s acquisition of Forte Software. Paul Butterworth was the founder of Forte Software and spent a few months at Sun before moving on and starting AmberPoint, which is doing some really cool things. Not sure how many remember Forte Software, but Forte was the maker of a 4GL programming language called TOOL with a pretty cool n-tier architecture. Instead of using anything that Forte had, Sun decided to buy NetBeans and just use the name Forte for its tools. What a joke – billions of shareholder dollars wasted but that’s history now.
Any rate, a group of us got to spend an afternoon with Paul as part of a client visit. As we were quizzing him on why Sun bought Forte, he said something that’s still with me and rings true in most acquisitions. He theorized that large companies are always amazed at all the innovation coming from small companies and so they buy these small companies in hopes of bringing the small company magic into the larger company - and that almost never works as the small companies were innovative because they weren’t constrained by all the big company process, policies and red-tape. The minute the small company joins the large company, innovation stops as people that could have been creative and really stretched were now constrained by all the big company bureaucracy."

Importance of clear communication

Sometime when we communicate to people surrounding to us, we felt that whatever we are communicating to them, they are getting it completely. But when we try to communicate further on the same topic we have discussed few days back, we came to know they they could not get the discussion even half at that time.

Similar case has been happened with me when I was chatting with my client on Skype. We have discussed some functionality and both came to conclusion that we have understood completely. But when I was trying to rediscuss the same thing for some clarification, I came to know that our perspective were not matching at that time.

The reason for this mismatch in communication was, He was assuming that I already have that kind of mindtest in which he live. So he didn;t explain the details about that. And that causes the confusion.

Anyway I have learned one more thing from this, Listen carefully to other and also document whatever discussion has been happened. Review it again for better understanding and ask about clarification without any hesitation. Through this way only we can avoid the mis-communication.